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RTO burnout is real and different from regular burnout and I don't see enough people talking about it

sam_recovering · 4 replies

I was recovering from burnout when my company announced return-to-office last year. Three days a week, center-office floor, open plan. I want to describe what happened because I think it's distinct from what people usually mean when they say burnout.

Regular burnout for me was about volume. Too much work, not enough time, feeling like I couldn't catch up. I fixed that partly by working remote. I could control my environment. No spontaneous interruptions. I could step outside between calls. I could eat lunch somewhere quiet. My nervous system got room to breathe.

RTO burnout hit differently. It wasn't the commute (it was 30 minutes). It was the constant micro-stimulation of an open-plan office. Other people's noise and phone calls. Being visible and therefore available and therefore rarely in a state of focused work. It was the loss of control over environment that I hadn't even realized I'd become dependent on for basic functionality.

By month two back in office I was more depleted after a 7-hour day than I had been after a 10-hour remote day. Not because the work was harder. Because regulating myself through the environment took energy that I didn't have to spare.

I ended up disclosing a mental health accommodation request and got partial remote approval. That process was uncomfortable but it worked. What I didn't expect was how much grief I felt. like the version of work that had let me actually recover was just gone and I had to relearn something from scratch.

If this sounds familiar: it's not weakness. Some people can tune out office noise. Some people can't. Both are real. And if you're mid-recovery from burnout, a sudden full RTO may set you back more than your employer knows or thinks about.

4 replies

returner_ren

This describes my last 6 months almost exactly. I came back from a caregiving gap, took a role that started as hybrid, then went to 4 days. The grief part is right. The environment I'd negotiated for myself to function was removed and nobody around me understood what had changed.

jp_newgrad

Is there a way to frame an accommodation request without disclosing too much? I'm anxious about what happens to your reputation when HR knows.

sam_recovering

You don't have to share a diagnosis. You just need documentation from a provider that you need a particular accommodation. HR is legally required to keep that separate from your personnel file. Whether you trust that depends on the company. It's a risk calculation only you can make.

marketer_mei

Thank you for writing this out. I've been trying to articulate why going back to the office hit me harder than I expected and 'micro-stimulation cost' is the closest thing to accurate I've encountered.