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sales rejection vs interview rejection, why the second one hits way harder

sdr_sky · 4 replies

i've been in SDR/AE roles for four years. rejection is part of the job. i can take a no on a cold call without blinking. i've had 80-call days where every single one was a hang-up or a hard no, and i drove home fine.

but one interview rejection and i'm a wreck for three days.

been thinking about why this is different and i think i've got it.

when a prospect rejects you in sales, they're rejecting a product at a moment in time. it's not personal by design. you call so many people that no single rejection has much weight, and you've been trained from day one to depersonalize it.

an interview rejection is the opposite of all that. it's specifically about you. you disclosed your skills, your experience, your reasoning, your personality across multiple hours. you were the product, not a product you're selling. when they pass, it's harder to say "that was just a moment in time" because you put in weeks of prep and showed them the real version of you.

also in sales you get a lot of no's per yes, and that ratio is expected and normal. in a job search the numbers are brutal and you didn't sign up knowing you'd get rejected 30+ times.

if you've come from a sales background and you're struggling with the emotional weight of interview rejections, i think the first thing is to just acknowledge that these aren't the same thing. your sales rejection tolerance doesn't transfer here and that's not a weakness, it's just different stakes.

the one thing that does transfer: you know better than most people that rejection rate doesn't predict the quality of the eventual yes.

4 replies

ae_andre

this is exactly it. in sales the game is about pipeline volume. in a job search you have one pipeline and it moves slow and every stage matters. completely different psychological load.

finance_faye

also in sales if a deal falls through you can start another. in a job search the process itself is so long per company that losing one feels like losing months, because it kind of is.

content_cole

came from a journalism background where rejection from editors was constant and bounced-back quickly. interview rejection floored me in a way i didn't expect. your point about it being "you" not "a piece you wrote" is exactly the thing.

sdr_sky

yes, and with a piece you wrote there's also the sense that maybe the next editor will like it. with an interview you can't resubmit yourself to the same company. it's a one-shot evaluation.