Posting this as a cautionary tale, not to scare anyone, but to give context that rarely gets mentioned.
Got an offer from a mid-size fintech. Base was 12k below my target. I asked for time to review (didn't mention competing offers because I didn't have one yet). Recruiter called back two days later and said the role had been "filled internally." Which, okay. Maybe true. But the timing was exact.
I'm not saying negotiating is dangerous. I'm saying know who you're dealing with before you ask for time. Some companies use exploding offers as a filtering mechanism, which tells you something about the culture anyway.
What I'd do differently: come back within 24 hours with a specific counter, not a request for more time. Time is a luxury you need leverage to afford.
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recruiter_rita
recruiter here and yeah, some shops do this. usually smaller companies with a single headcount approval and a hiring manager breathing down someone's neck. it's bad practice but it happens. the tell is usually if they pushed hard for a decision on the first call.
corp_refugee
that checks out. the recruiter kept saying "our hiring manager loves you and wants to move fast." i took that as enthusiasm. in retrospect it was pressure.
numbers_only
this is why i always line up the counter before i ask for time. draft it the same day the offer lands, even if you don't send it yet. then you're never actually stalling, you just need a night to sleep on the number you already figured out.
director_dee
i've seen this from the hiring side too. most legitimate companies won't rescind just because you asked for time. 48 hours is totally normal. the companies that explode offers after 24 hours are usually the ones you'd want to leave in 18 months anyway. so maybe you dodged something.