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the night my body just... quit before my brain did

sam_recovering · 4 replies

week 11 of my search. i'd been doing the thing where you tell yourself you're fine because you're still sending applications. still getting first rounds. still performing okayness on calls.

then one tuesday i sat down to prep for an interview and just. couldn't. my hands wouldn't type. not in a dramatic way. i just sat there for two hours and nothing happened.

i thought i was being lazy. i'm not lazy. i have never been lazy. that framing sent me into a shame spiral that took three days to climb out of.

turned out i was running on fumes so long i'd stopped noticing. had to cancel the interview. cried about it for a full afternoon. then slept 11 hours and felt something shift.

not fixed. not better. just... less urgent. like the pressure valve had cracked open a little.

if your body is doing weird things, it's probably not weakness. it's probably information. i wish someone had told me that at week 3 instead of week 11.

4 replies

laidoff_lena

the 'still sending applications therefore i'm fine' logic kept me going for weeks past where i should have stopped. productivity felt like proof i wasn't falling apart. it wasn't.

sam_recovering

exactly. busyness as self-deception. i was so convinced output = okay. it really isn't.

returner_ren

i had this exact thing after my first week back searching after caregiving. body was absolutely done before i had conscious permission to be done. it's real and it's physical, not just emotional. take it seriously.

market_realist

week 31 here. the 'nothing happened' days come and go. i've stopped fighting them as much. sometimes the most productive thing is just being horizontal for a few hours.