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imposter syndrome gets worse when you join a higher-prestige company, not better

corp_refugee · 4 replies

counterintuitive thing i learned moving from a mid-size startup to a top-tier big tech company a few years ago: the imposter syndrome got WORSE, not better.

i thought getting the offer would be the proof. like, they evaluated me, they want me, the loop is closed. it was not closed. it opened wider.

here's what nobody told me:

the comparison pool changes. at my startup i was one of the stronger engineers. at the new company i was surrounded by people who'd built infrastructure at global scale, published ML research, had patents. the raw talent density was different and my brain recalibrated against a completely new reference class immediately.

the work changes too. things that would have been a solo project at my old job were whole teams here. that makes you feel less individually competent even if you're doing exactly the same things.

and the culture of competence signaling. in high-prestige environments people are excellent at APPEARING certain. that gets mistaken for actually being certain. it took me about a year to realize that many of my very confident-sounding colleagues were also making it up about 40% of the time.

i've talked to people who've moved from mid-tier to FAANG, from boutique consulting to MBB, from local firm to Big 4. same story everywhere. the jump to a more prestigious place almost always makes the syndrome spike first, before it levels.

if you just joined somewhere "better" and feel like a fraud: this is predictable. it's the comparison pool shifting on you. give it 6-12 months before you conclude anything about yourself.

4 replies

ds_dmitri

the confident-sounding-but-guessing thing is so real. i've been in rooms at well-known companies where someone stated something very authoritatively and they were just... wrong. the confidence is partly a performance. once you see it you can't unsee it.

ml_mike

also: the higher the prestige, the more selective the filter, the more people who got there had to be excellent at performing certainty to pass interviews. so you're selecting for people who look confident in high-stakes situations. that doesn't mean they are confident in their daily work.

firsttime_mgr

worth saying though: some of those people ARE just smarter. not all of it is performance. the skill gap is sometimes real and it's okay to be honest about that while still believing you deserve to be there.

ux_uma

i moved from a regional agency to a known tech company in the UX research space and this is exactly what happened. the first 8 months were rough. the thing that helped most was finding one area where i was visibly useful and building from there instead of trying to be broadly competent immediately.