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imposter syndrome during job search on H1B, when the stakes are too high to just "feel the fear and do it anyway"

visa_vik · 5 replies

I want to talk about something that doesn't get discussed in the usual imposter syndrome conversation: what happens when you can't afford to fail.

I'm on an H1B. I was laid off in January. 60-day clock. I found a new role in 43 days, which I'm grateful for, but I want to talk about what the job search felt like during that period.

The imposter syndrome was layered. It wasn't just "do I belong in this room." It was: if I fail this interview, I might have to leave the country. Which meant every phone screen felt like a deportation hearing.

That pressure made me perform worse in the moments that mattered. I'd freeze on questions I knew the answer to. I'd over-explain to compensate. One interviewer told me I seemed nervous (very helpful, thanks).

What actually helped was a brutal reframe my friend gave me: "They don't know what your stakes are. To them you're just another candidate. So act like one." That sounds obvious but it genuinely short-circuited the spiral. My stakes were invisible to them.

I also gave myself explicit permission to apply to roles I wasn't 100% qualified for. Under the 60-day clock there's no time for gatekeeping yourself. That actually helped with the imposter side too: if I'm going to apply to the stretch role anyway, I might as well prepare like I belong there.

For anyone else in a visa situation doing a job search: the imposter syndrome hits differently when deportation is on the table. You're not weak for finding it harder. The stakes are objectively higher.

5 replies

content_cole

43 days on a 60-day clock. that's incredible and also terrifying. the thing about your stakes being invisible to the interviewer is genuinely useful, not just for visa situations.

careerveteran

I've interviewed candidates in exactly this situation and I want you to know: good interviewers are rooting for you. We can't change your external stakes but we're not adversaries. If your nerves show, frame it to yourself not as weakness but as information: the adrenaline is there because you care, and that care is real.

recruiter_rita

The 'apply to stretch roles anyway' advice is underrated. I see candidates self-select out of roles they would have gotten. The company's job is to filter; let them do it. Your job is to apply and prepare.

visa_vik

yes, this. the 60-day constraint actually forced better behavior. i stopped holding myself back because there wasn't time.

sec_sasha

"my stakes were invisible to them" is doing a lot of work as a mental reset. saving this post.